Amanda’s Top Three Couples Counseling Tips
Posted: September 16, 2015
Amanda's top couples counseling tips for the couple looking to reconnect.
Our office gets a lot of inquiries about couples counseling. Whenever I am on Periscope, one of the main topics people bring up is about couples issues. Even when I see people individually, their relationship concerns often creep into our sessions. People want to know how to strengthen their relationship. Chances are, if you come to see me for couples therapy, I am going to make three recommendations. So here they are, my top three couples counseling tips, in no particular order: 1. Find out their love language Love Language Quiz Have you read “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman? If not, then it’s important to read about and get to know the five love languages. The book outlines five basic ways people show and receive love. They are acts of services, words of affirmation, touch, gifts and time spent. Once you know yours and your partners, you will be able to be on the same page in terms of how you feel love and how you receive love. What is your love language and what is your partner’s? 2. Go on a weekly date night This is an absolute must. If you have children, hire a babysitter. If money is a concern, go on a picnic at the park. It doesn’t matter what the date is, just as long as you and your significant other are spending time together, having fun and communicating. Where would you like to go on a date with your partner this weekend? 3. Spend time once a week talking about your relationship It takes about 15 minutes a week of uninterrupted time to discuss the status of your relationship. Look at it as a weekly status update. Check in with each other about how you are feeling in the relationship, what you need from the other person and any other information you think it might be important for your spouse to know that week. It should go beyond logistics and into feelings. How often do you and your spouse sit down and talk about your relationship?Sometimes couples go through issues bigger than what love languages and spending time together can fix. If you are having serious issues in your marriage, call our office today, 954-378-5381, to schedule an appointment with one of our therapists that specializes in couples counseling.