Break-ups are hard business, on both sides. It’s never fun to be the one broken up with and it’s not easy being the one to break-up with someone. During a break-up, it is common to feel mixed emotions, including depression, anxiety, anger and confusion. The one thing that a break-up needs to heal is time. In the meantime, there are some strategies you can use in order to best manage your depressed and anxious feelings.
1. Talk to your friends, family or a therapist about it
You probably won’t feel like it but talking about your depression and anxiety will be helpful. Opening up and expressing your feelings is an important step in healing.
2. Learn to express your resentments and then forgive
A big part of grieving a relationship is looking at your resentments towards that person and then work on forgiving them. This process may take a long time; however it is another step towards healing.
3. Feel your feelings but don’t dwell there
It is totally normal to cry during a break-up; however lingering there for too long can lead to depression. Staying in the sadness for too long is not good for your mental health.
4. Start rediscovering yourself
Look for ways you can find yourself again. Maybe you have been putting off a hobby you wanted to start. Maybe you can go on a trip you’ve been planning. Find yourself again and become whole.
Breaking-up is a part of the grief cycle. You will go through disbelief, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It will take time to move through all the stages into a place of acceptance. Take care of yourself and find that love within you and eventually one day you will wake up and realize the break-up was the best thing that could have happened to you.
Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines, Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-378-5381 or email her at amanda@amandapattersonlmhc.com.
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Breaking-up is a part of the grief cycle. You will go through disbelief, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It will take time to move through all the stages into a place of acceptance. Take care of yourself and find that love within you and eventually one day you will wake up and realize the break-up was the best thing that could have happened to you.
