Amanda’s, top couples counseling tips for the couple looking to reconnect.
Our office gets a lot of inquiries about couples counseling. Whenever I am on Periscope, one of the main topics people bring up is about couples issues. Even when I see people individually, their relationship concerns often creep into our sessions. People want to know how to strengthen their relationship. Chances are, if you come to see me for couples therapy, I am going to make three recommendations.
So here they are, my top three couples counseling tips, in no particular order:
1. Find out their love language
Love Language Quiz
Have you read “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman? If not, then it’s important to read about and get to know the five love languages. The book outlines five basic ways people show and receive love. They are acts of services, words of affirmation, touch, gifts and time spent. Once you know yours and your partners, you will be able to be on the same page in terms of how you feel love and how you receive love. What is your love language and what is your partner’s?
2. Go on a weekly date night
This is an absolute must. If you have children, hire a babysitter. If money is a concern, go on a picnic at the park. It doesn’t matter what the date is, just as long as you and your significant other are spending time together, having fun and communicating. Where would you like to go on a date with your partner this weekend?
3. Spend time once a week talking about your relationship
It takes about 15 minutes a week of uninterrupted time to discuss the status of your relationship. Look at it as a weekly status update. Check in with each other about how you are feeling in the relationship, what you need from the other person and any other information you think it might be important for your spouse to know that week. It should go beyond logistics and into feelings. How often do you and your spouse sit down and talk about your relationship?
Sometimes couples go through issues bigger than what love languages and spending time together can fix. If you are having serious issues in your marriage, call our office today, 954-378-5381, to schedule an appointment with one of our therapists that specializes in couples counseling.
Amanda Landry, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines, Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-378-5381 or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.